Its been hard for me to accept help. This has been a daily battle that I fight each day. I despise the notion of asking others for help. I know people are busy and I don't want to be a burden. I have found that there are numerous people willing to step up and help us. Our Bible study group at our church has been bringing us meals for months once I was housebound. I know that with one text, there would be people at my door to pick up the two boys at home or help with other needs as they present themselves. But still, I hate asking.
Its been hard for me to listen to advice that I have been given. Sometimes I know that the advice is sound and correct but I still struggle to accept it. My doctor gave me advice (and some short term medication) to help with this unnatural level of chronic stress.
Its been good for me to take a break from it all. David and I gave the boys to a sitter and we snuck up to Flagstaff for the weekend. The advice that we were given was to do nothing and we followed it to the letter. We ate out every meal and then came back and took a nap and watched TV (which is a foreign concept to us). We did nothing! It was glorious. David and I came back refreshed.
Its been good for me to accept the help that God has continued to provide. There are dozens of families helping out with the multitude of our needs. Thank you for those that are supporting us during this time. Not sure how we would have made it this far without your help. I have accepted the fact that I can't (nor should I) do this on my own. God gave me a family, church community and friends that have supported us during this time.
Its been good for me to heed the advice and follow it. I have made some small changes that seem to be helping. Please pray that I continue to listen to the advice that I have received and follow it.
Its been good for me to see Zachary doing so well. He is continuing to grow and act like a normal baby. We can actually care now that his days and nights are flipped! Before that was the least of our concerns. We were thankful that he had days and nights!
His next hurdle is coming up on Monday the 24th. The docs will take a look at the stint in the airway to see if it needs to be removed. The docs said that this process is "traumatic." Please pray that Zachary handles this well. Part of the operation requires that Zach be placed on a ventilator again (argh). Please pray that he comes off it quickly.
The docs are meeting with us midday on Wednesday the 26th. It sounds like they will discuss the next steps for Zachary. Please pray that we will all have the ability to make sound decisions for Zachary.
Thank you all!
We will continue to pray for Zachary and for mom and dad. These are certainly difficult days, but by the grace of God and through your family and extended family in Christ you have many who are lifting you all up in prayer. You have sweet brothers and sisters in Christ who are being His hands and feet during this time. I know from recent experience how humbling it is to allow others to serve us and do for us what we may not be able to do for ourselves. As my wise son pointed out I should allow them the blessing of serving me. So I say lovingly to you allow your family and family in Christ the blessing of serving you through this time.
ReplyDeletePlease know that the Solis family is uplifting your family and little Zach with our prayers. We are encouraged by each update. We know that God is ever faithful and will be always with you all. Blessings,
Cammie S.
Cammie has said so well what I was going to say--do not rob people of the privilege of being blessed by serving you (and Him). I can understand your feelings--when I was so helpless physically, when I couldn't even go to the bathroom without someone helping me, God taught me that my pride shouldn't rob other people of the blessing of serving. "In as much as ye have done it unto the least.....ye have done it unto Me." We pray for you and rejoice with each victory, no matter how small. Blessings on your day (and night), Prayerfully, Mariilyn (and Bruce)Long
ReplyDeleteBecky, I understand so well what you mean about asking and accepting help. That was difficult for me, too, until I realized that when I don't accept help that is offered, I may be robbing the giver of the blessing of giving. That helped. Over the years I have also learned that when I'm offered something that I don't think I need, or when an unexpected money gift comes my way, God is usually sending the help ahead of time, because He knows I'm going to need it! Love you!
ReplyDeleteDavid & Becky, we are so happy that you got to get away... great advice!...& an answer to our prayers also! I (Gale) have been praying specifically for you two & your relationship through this tough time. We have experienced God draw us closer to Him & to each other as we walked through the unknown many times, but it can be hard on you & your relationship. Since there are so many needs of your children & daily life, not to mention the exhaustion you are experiencing, we often don't take time for ourselves & neglect each other. So glad you are refreshed! Amen to the above comments on learning to accept help & not robbing someone of a blessing. We are grateful for the love, support, & help of those near you...especially since we aren't able to be there and help you in person. Thank you for your openness & honesty. God is good & He is & will carry you through. Continue to let the prayers & help of those around you be the arms holding your arms up (like Moses who could not hold his arms up any longer during a battle, every time his arms grew weary & dropped the Israelites would start to be overcome...but when Moses couldn't hold his arms up on his own any longer, than Hur & Aaron held his arms up for him & the Israelites won. (Ex. 17:10-13) Praise God for those who hold our arms up! And notice, Moses also found out he couldn't do it on his own & had to accept help. Its been happening to people for a long time. When we get to the point to acknowledge it, God is faithful. Our prayers are with you all.
ReplyDeleteLove, Uncle Tony & Aunt Gale